Midlife Sparkle with Belinda Stark
Welcome to Midlife Sparkle with Belinda Stark – the podcast that celebrates the messy, magical middle of life.
I'm Belinda Stark – coach, writer, mum, and midlife cheerleader. I know firsthand how this season can feel like a rollercoaster: one minute you're craving change, the next you're clinging to what's familiar. Whether you're navigating menopause, identity shifts, career pivots, or relationships evolving, this podcast is your reminder that you're not alone – and it's not too late to reclaim your sparkle.
Each week, you'll hear honest conversations with inspiring women, expert voices, and real stories from the messy middle. We’ll explore everything from mindset and wellbeing to alcohol, ageing, motherhood, purpose, and the quiet courage it takes to start again.
This is your space for reflection, laughter, lightbulb moments, and gentle nudges forward – no perfectionism, pressure, or pretending required.
Let’s rewrite the rules of midlife, one story at a time.
Midlife Sparkle with Belinda Stark
Identity Loss
In this solo episode of Midlife Sparkle, I dive into one of the most common and quietly painful experiences for women in their forties, fifties, and beyond - losing our sense of identity.
For so long, we’ve worn countless hats: mother, partner, school mum, business owner, team player, caregiver, organiser - the list goes on. But as life shifts - kids grow up, parents age, careers plateau or change - many of us find ourselves asking, Who am I now?
I explore the emotional and practical realities of this stage of life - the boredom, loneliness, and uncertainty that can creep in - and why rediscovering your values is the key to reconnecting with who you truly are.
Together, we unpack what values really mean, how they act as your inner compass, and how to start realigning your life around what matters most to you. Whether your values centre on family, freedom, creativity, or health, this episode guides you to reflect deeply and start finding your way back to yourself.
You’ll hear how I help my clients (and myself) identify what they value most, using practical exercises to gain clarity, confidence, and direction. By leaning into these truths, you’ll rediscover joy and purpose in your next chapter - because midlife isn’t the end; it’s the perfect time to begin again.
Key Takeaways
- Rediscovering your identity in midlife begins with understanding your core values.
- Your values act as a compass, guiding your decisions and helping you feel more connected to yourself.
- Reflect on when you’ve felt happiest, most fulfilled, or proud - these moments reveal what truly matters to you.
- Write down your values - with pen and paper - to deepen your self-awareness and accountability.
- Accept that values evolve; what mattered most in your thirties may shift in your fifties, and that’s perfectly natural.
Actions You Can Take Today
- Take 20 minutes to journal about a moment when you felt proud or fulfilled - what does it say about your values?
- Narrow your list of values to five that feel most important right now.
- Ask yourself, Am I living in alignment with these?
- Start making small changes that reflect what matters to you - whether that’s creativity, connection, or calm.
- Remember: midlife is your time to put you first.
If this episode resonated, I’d love you to share it with another woman in midlife who’s navigating her own sense of self. You’re not alone in this - we’re all rediscovering our sparkle together.